Before we reach a decision or when we are in the middle of something tough, we "Over" all sorts of things.

We do it with the best intention and yet it can play against us. It may apply to you too - it certainly used to apply to me.

• Over-care - thinking all the time about others and how they're doing. Worrying what others are thinking about us.
• Over-share - talking about what's going on. Reassuring others by saying what you're thinking or how tough it is and using precious energy).
• Over-deliver - trying to compensate for gaps in the team or in others' performance. Being someone who doesn't easily delegate as it can be quicker to do it yourself.
• Over-stay - the writing is on the wall, the energy is showing you what you need to do, AND you still stay. Until you don't....
• Over-think - of course we don't want to just be scattergun with decisions but our sense of 'knowing' a move it on the horizon is always there and needs to be acted upon rather than over-thought. The opportunity may go to someone else...

We might be more self-ish during tough times at work when personal "what's best for me" decisions are needed

My best piece of advice is from the experience:

• If you’re waiting then wait from choice, not fear.
• Pay attention to what’s happening and take action.
• Remember who and what’s important to you – you can be replaced fairly easily at work…not in your family.
• Put yourself out there being open for opportunity.
• STOP being so accommodating and helpful and available – it can hold you AND others back and it’s exhausting.
• Keep your cards close to your chest – good for your energy and keeping who you trust close and staying silent with the rest.
  

“Carve out and claim the time for yourself and kindle your own fire” – Amy Ippoliti